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#GodChat: Blessing Blocking


After last week’s #GodChat, I figured I needed to shine a brighter light on the other side of this coin! Yes, I believe it is God’s grace that allows our sins to be overlooked for entry into His Kingdom. But it’s God’s mercy that allows us to prosper here on earth. How do we get His mercy? Aha… Through repentance!


Proverbs 28:13

Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper,
    but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy. 


Obedience = Blessings
I believe when we live under God’s umbrella: confessing the belief, studying the Word, going to church, praying & praising, giving & tithing, and ‘acting right’ in general, we are being obedient to His Word.

Disobedience = Blocked Blessings
But when we step from under God’s umbrella to fornicate, lie, cheat, steal, kill, and ‘act a fool’ in any other way, we are being disobedient.

The way I was taught, the only way to fully reposition ourselves back under God’s umbrella (with mercy and blessings) is to repent our sins by turning away from the disobedience. That means we have to stop lying, lusting, drinking, sucking, sexting, coveting, and whatever else our immoral asses are doing – if we want to be prosperous.

Yes, I know a lot of us are walking around here with a tilted umbrella (mine may be tilted further than yours!) But I don’t believe any of us can stand the rain without God for too long. Hence, sinning in peace is an idea; a great idea to some…especially for a blog… but it’s an oxymoronic one. Simply stated, it’s hard to find all of our peace when we can’t find all of our blessings.

So be smart, be safe and be prosperous. Let’s not sail into heaven soaked and dripping wet just because we can… Let’s straighten our spiritual umbrella up and stop blocking those blessings!

#GodChat: Sinning in Peace


Let me just say, I didn’t have to go far to be blessed this time! While posting the #SexChat Question of the week, I came to a certain peace regarding the whole “homosexuality as a sin” issue.

*DISCLAIMER – This is a faith-based, highly opinionated post….teheehe!

Born and bred in a Word-filled church, I was always taught homosexuality was a sin. Additionally, I was taught that same-gender-sex was no different from fornication or dishonesty- as all sin is equal. That was that: I was sinning whether I sexed my man or sexed my girl, killed a bug or killed my uncle.

Enter Dr. Heather with…

“Fact: People are whatever sexuality they are going to be
in the womb. It's complicated,but there is a scientific
explanation for why people are Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and 


At first, I was a little uneasy with her scientific approach to this.  See, I knew I had made a choice to sin every time I got drunk, got sexed, got dishonest, got proud, got jealous, got…. Oh you get it. Never once had I considered I’d been born this way. Even with all the talk in the media of being “born gay,” I just shrugged the idea off.  This was mostly because I was unequipped to enter the debate of whether or not “God makes mistakes,” or if “God would allow a person to be born gay.”  But once Dr. Heather explained the idea of everyone’s “sexual template” being created in the womb, I actually believed it.

THE CONUNDRUM:  If I believed that some of my bisexual tendencies may have resulted from various developmental influences in my momma’s tummy, and I believed that God made me, then I should be blaming God for my Biblically sinful freakydeakyism<– not a word!

Had God made a mistake by making me so attracted to a beautiful woman’s plump booty that I admire one every chance I get – even in church?  Moreover, how could I say, “God breathes life –creating every human,” but then acknowledge that God made Charles Manson a murderer, and my nasty-ass uncle a pedophile for that matter?

I’ve since learned that I can’t acknowledge anything like that because I don’t believe God creates evil. Although, there are some that believe otherwise, Genesis 1:31: says “God saw all that he had made, and it was very good.”  My faith tells me that God doesn’t make mistakes. God’s creations are good. Things can only become evil when they remove all of the good – all of the God.

In other words, I don’t believe God creates predetermined liars, fornicators, alcoholics, serial killers, pedophiles, or homosexuals. I know this directly contradicts Dr. Heather’s quote, but I believe God creates good people with predispositions for good and evil- HUMANS!

Now, some of us may have more predispositions for sin as opposed to good and vice versa, but the point is: We are only human. And because of that, we can easily become confused by the origins of our predispositions as well as the strategies to correct or live with them.

For me, there’s nothing a good #GodChat can’t clear up.  God allows us to be born into sin, but He’s banking on us to love Him more than we love our own flesh in an effort to get out of it. Sounds like an evil Jedi mind trick right? I know.  It’s deep. But I find peace in knowing the choice to become as close as we can to Christ’s perfection is up to us. We should stop lying, stop sucking, stop … well, you know.  And if we can’t do it alone, call on Him because it is written that we will all fall short of His perfection.

Listen, I’ve learned that as long as you believe Jesus died on the cross for our sins, then you have not turned away from His love and will not be turned away from His Kingdom. And that’s my PEACE!  So, I send kudos to Dr. Heather for the sound encouragement to, “Enjoy being you!”  Because I believe all believers are going to heaven –even the ones that lie, cheat, steal, and fornicate- same sex or not.

#GodChat: Stress Relief

Lately, I’ve been a little stressed about situations I can’t change. Specifically, I expect people to do what they say, or at least mean what they say. When neither happens, I find myself aggravated by the thoughtlessness and worried about the next plan of action.

Enter Blessing–> A scripture found in a 3-week-old devotional written by @TroyGramling. (I love when this happens!)

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own
 understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you
 which path to take.” 
 Proverbs 3:5-6

In other words, I may not have the power to make another person ‘act right’ and I certainly shouldn’t work my nerves trying to understand why they won’t.  But as long as I trust in God, He will get whatever needs to be done… DONE!

So, there’s no need to be stressed as long as we remember we’re always blessed.

We are too Blessed to be Stressed (You know I had to say it! Teheehee)

#GodChat: Set Your Boundaries

While writing, The Likely Adventures of a Childhood Sexual Abuse Victim, I’m recognizing effects of childhood trauma that are usually overlooked. I tackle a reoccurring theme of relational boundaries. As strong as I believe I am, I still allow people to finagle their way into an area of my life where they have no business.

So, when @TroyGramling, Pastor of @PotentialChurch taught a message on “Relational Pollution” I thought it would be nice to share a blessing I received through it.

GUARD against INFECTION by FILTERing your life from POLLUTANT
relationships. Then, you can INVEST time with those that make


Easier said than done right? But what about your best friend who likes to manipulate every situation? And then there’s your significant other that blows a gasket at the slightest aggravation… Oh and the sibling that whines and cries about everything!!! But ABSOLUTELY NOTHING compares to the parent that’s going to make you do it because “they said so!

Well Pastor Troy (I always think of the rapper! Teheehe) pointed to Matthew 5:37 that says, “Just say a simple, ‘Yes, I will,’ or ‘No, I won’t.’ Anything beyond this is from the evil one.”

A missed friend of mine used to say, “When you explain, you lose.” Guess, what…She ain’t never lied. And though I’ve said it before…Now I know God’s got my back on it too! So speak your peace and keep it moving. Once you Set Your Boundary, God will handle the rest.

#GodChat #SetYourBoundaries

#GodChat: Follow Your Dreams

In writing my first memoir, The Likely Adventures of a Childhood Sexual Abuse Victim, I’ve run into my fair share of Nay-Sayers. But yesterday, I was truly blessed by the message aired from @JoelOsteen.  He pointed to Acts 13:36 to illustrate that we are only here to fulfill God’s purpose – no one else’s.

 “Not every person is going to understand you.”

That simple statement blessed me to move forward, and shake ’em off. Hopefully, it will bless some of you too.

#GodChat #FollowYourDreams